December 28, 2005

20th Wedding Annivessary

Today 28th December 2005, is our (hubby and I) 20th wedding annivessary. I am not able to write anything yet as I am in KL office for the day for a very important meeting. Will write ASAP.


We came out from the house at 4.30 am this morning, to drive to KL office for my meeting as well as to send Kak Long back to campus. The rush was to make sure we arrived before 9.00 am which is the time for Kak Long’s first class today. I intentionally asked hubby to accompany me to KL for this trip because of the annivessary. Saja-saja nak berdua-duan dengan dia tu. Since Kak Long went home for the Christmas holiday and knowing that we were coming to KL then she stayed on until today.

After we sent her to campus, on the way to my KL Office I just casually ask hubby.

Me : " Do you remember that today is our anniversary? "

Hubby : (Much to my surprised). " Ingat, tapi hari ni berapa haribulan, 28 kan? Bukan semalam ka? "

Me : " La, hari ni lah. "

Hubby : " Yang ke berapa dah? "

Me : " 20 dah"

See, that is my hubby, he forgets all the important dates in our lives. The only date he remembers is his own birthday, :-), which he will remind me a few days before. Every year when he has to fill in the income tax form, he will call me to ask for the girls birthdates. I will always asked him back, whether he remembers mine. He said he did, but on the actual day he "forgets".

That is typical of him, I have long given up the sulking or merajuk for all these. So how do you expect him to surprise me with something romantic for to tonight? I will be really, REALLY surprise if he does. The presents that he will buy me would be items of clothing. The first and the probably the last time he bought me flowers was the day I gave birth to Kak Long.

Don’t get me wrong, I love him very much. Because as a husband, he is a good husband. As an individual he is a nice person. Being a perfectionist, he keeps me in line with my a lot of things. My cloth’s sense and style, the way I walk and talk etc. Leaving things to me I will sure be very "selekeh" He is my biggest critics in a lot of things. But at the same time he encourages me in things that he knows I am good at. In our relationship we are GOOD friends as well as we are lovers.

My parents’ marriage was not a very good one. I told my husband that I would not want our marriage to be like theirs. And I will continue working after we were married. Because my parents will expect it of me after they had paid for my education. On his side of the family, the week of our wedding, the family was shocked of the news of the brother-in-law’s lies to his eldest sister (Kak Maz). The late BIL had been having a second wife for 10 years before Kak Maz discovered she had a madu. So the lie had hurt the whole family badly, but it was a blessing in disguise for me.

The first year of marriage for me was a trial one, I had known hubby for 8 years before we got the married. I was of the idea that my money is mine, but his money is for sharing. But in the end I come to term that we have to share what we earn for the sake of the family. In marriage for me, it is more than just sex, it is a lot more. It is a relationship, a lot of giving and taking on both sides. It is a commitment by both parties to make the marriage work. Once both had given that commitment ang continue to stick to that commitment then the marriage works. Love can evaporates like any other emotions, there are times that we were happy and there are times that hates each others’ guts but at the end of the day we are still committed to the solemn lafaz nikah. We are not a perfect couple, but on the whole I would say, Alhamdullilah, so far Allah has blessed me with a good marriage. I hope it will last until we both passed on to the next world.

45 comments:

MA said...

"Oh, how we danced on the night we were wed
We vowed our true love though a word wasn't said
The world was in bloom, there were stars in the skies
Except for the few that were there in your eyes.
The night seemed to fade into blossoming dawn
The sun shone anew but the dance lingered on
Could we but relive that sweet moment sublime
We'd find that our love is unaltered by time."

The Anniversary Waltz (Dubin/Frankl)

Happy Anniversary !

bergen said...

You've been married for 20 years? Wow.

May you stay married for another 20.

Happy anniversary.

AuntyN said...

MA : Thanks for the song and the wishes.

bergen : Yes, I have been married for 20 years. I am an old married lady. I do hope to stay harmoniously married for another 20 years InsyaAllah.Thanks for the wish.

Jiwa Rasa said...

Happy Aniversary.
Moga kekal bahagia hingga akhirat

nora said...

happy anniversary kak N..caya laa..

atiza said...

happy anniversary kak N

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary AN
Semoga kekal bersama dunia & akhirat

arc

oren said...

Happy anniversary la Aunty..moga kekal sampai akhir hayat..nih jubli apa yek?

cL said...

Selamat Hari Ulang Tahun ke-20 Perkahwinan
Moga berbahagia sampey ke akhir hayat

amin...

Anonymous said...

Laaaa Happy 20th Anniversary... Patutla berdua today ehehhehehhe

Hugs,
AMZA

meandbaby said...

Happy Anniversary!

syazha said...

auntyn,
happy anniversary to u n hubby.. beromantika2 lah hendaknya today ye..

sya said...

auntyn... Selamat Menyambut Ulangtahun Perkahwinan... Bahagis Selalu

Kak Teh said...

selamat ulangtahun AuntyN dan semoga kekal bahagia!

Alex Lacey said...

Happy Golden Anniversary...:D

Anonymous said...

selamat ulang tahun perkahwinan ke 20..semoga dalam masa 20 tahun lagi, auntyn boleh blog pasal cucu2 pulak ye..

*nef*

RojakBuah said...

Selamat Ulang Tahun Perkahwinan..semoga kekal bahagia smp akhir hayat...

AuntyN said...

Thank you so much for all the wishes.

marlinda said...

Selamat Ulang Tahun, auntyN :)Tima kaseh ya menjengok rumah saya dulu :)

anggerik merah said...

Happy 20th wed anniversary to AuntyN & hubby. Insyaallah will be happy forever..

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary!!!! Semoga kekal selamanya..:D
**tsk, tsk, how i envy you guys**

Princess

Ely said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY AUNTYN!

semoga happy happy selalu dgn cik abang ok!

nora said...

syahdunya baca pendapat kak n tentang perkahwinan..harap2 perkahwinan saya pun kekal hingga ke akhir hayat. slamat ulangtahon perkahwinan. Hubby bagi hadiah apa tu? Dia bagi 'dia' laa kot..hahaha..jangan mareee..

CikNi said...

hepi anivesari auntyN- semoga kekal ke akhir hayat

Bilal said...

Dear AN,

Happy Anniversary !

Semoga kebahagiaan & keberkatan rumahtangga AN berterusan sehingga ke hujung hayat...Aminnnnn

Acik Liza said...

Happy Anniversary AuntyN
Moga berbahagia selalu....

PB said...

Aunty N,

Happy Anibersariiiii...
Moga perkahwinan ini akan terus bahagia dan akan terus menjadi loving couple...

budak said...

AN suruh UZ nyanyikan kat AN Depan anak2. Gerenti Romantiknya. Happy anniversary AN and UZ. May your marriage get stronger from days to days

Without You ..... Motley Crue

Without you, there’s no change
My nights and days are grey
If I reached out and touched the rain
It just wouldn’t feel the same

Without you, I’d be lost
I’d slip down from the top
I’d slide down so low
Girl you’d never, never know...


Without you, without you
A sailor lost at sea
Without you, woman
The world comes down on me


Without you in my life
I’d slowly wilt and die
But with you by my side
You’re the reason I’m alive
But with you in my life
You’re the reason I’m alive
But without you, without you...

Without you, my hope is small
Let me be me all along
You let the fires rage inside
Knowing someday I’d grow strong


I could face a mountain
But I could never climb alone
I could start another day
But how many, just don’t know
You’re the reason the sun shines down
And the nights, they don’t grow cold
Only you that I’ll hold when I’m young
Only you...as we grow old

Tj said...

AuntyN

"...See, that is my hubby, he forgets all the important dates in our lives.."

"That is typical of him.."

Worry not. Most men are likedat.. Including yours truly. :-))

Nok wat guaner ?

Happy 20th Anniversary.

easylady said...

he..he..maso bercinto dulu adatak dia kasi hadiah or card?

selalunya,kalu dah kawintu biasanya oghe jantanni lupo atau wat..wat lupo.Mula-mula dulu beraso juga hati macam AN.But most importantly like u said,kita kenai depa and they r commited to u and the family.X dak main kayu 3 macam your late biras.

Happy 20th anniversary.Semoga sentiasa ceria,gembira seisi keluarga.

ailin...in aalborg said...

We have two marriage dates--akad nikah and civil marriage. Always need to remember which date is the "real" one.

Arena said...

Happy anniversary aunty. Ed once told me, we may not be perfect, but we are perfect for each other. Cam tak caye jek dia cakap cam tuh. So i think aunty n uncle pon cam tu, perfect for each other..

atn said...

congrats :) no poems for you, tak pandai plus writer's block he he he

Queen Of The House said...

Congratulations for the many years together and hope you'll have many more happy ones :)

Anonymous said...

Belated annivesary Aunty N.....

AuntyN said...

Thank you again for all the kind words and wishes. I am overwhelmed by all of them.

lifecuppa said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY AUNTY-N.
I ECHO WHAT BERGEN WISHED YOU..MAY ALLAH GRANT YOU ANOTHER 20 HAPPY YEARS TOGETHER (OR MORE)...

nohachomel said...

alahai..terlambat lagi mai sini...anyway, rasanya tak terlambat nak wish kan? HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

whitecrab said...

AUNTYN, Happy Anniversery, samalah kita, my hubby agaih forgot our wedding anniversery (the last being the 11th) which falls on 27th Nov, I pun dah tak kuasa nak ingat. my hubby would remember my b'day coz he use the date as password/PIN code.

Mutiara said...

DearN
Happy anniversay and hope for many more to come.

Ordinary Superhero said...

Tumpang semangkuk nak ucapkan Selamat Hari Ulangtahun Perkahwinan. Semoga bahagia berterusan....

Jane Johan said...

Dear Aunty N,

As usual, I selalu terlepas train but that doesn't mean I wish you less.

So, here's wishing you Happy 20th Anniversary and hope there'll be many more anniversaries to come. Semoga berbahagia hingga ke akhir hayat... :)

AuntyN said...

Thank you, thank you to all of you.

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