December 21, 2005

Saying Our Goodbyes

Today is bibik's flight home to Indonesia, This week activities in my household were also centered around her. Last Saturday, I took her shopping, she wanted to buy some stuff to bring home. T-shirts for her sons, tudungs for her grandmother and mother. Yes, she said she still have a grandmother (Bibik is 50 years old!!!). I changed some money into Indon rupiah for her and so on.

Sunday, I sent her to her former employer Puan J, bibik wanted to stay overnite for the last time there. Puan J ni pun dah nampak successful, She and the husband just received a Mercedes Benz 200 Kompressor just from doing the Gano business. They have been doing it all out for the last 7 years. It just prooved that with hard work, you can always be successful.

Monday, I had to get her passport and the letter from the Immigration to allow her to go home. Later I had to fetch her from Puan J's. Tuesday, I remitted the balance of her salary money to the person she always sent the money to. I am worried for the safety of the money when she arrived in Jogjakarta. But she said that, the bank charges there are very high. Macam lintah darat pulak no. And lastly today, Wednesday, we said out goodbyes to bibik. She has been a loyal maid and part of our family for a long time. It is very likely that she may not be coming back here again. Her age and a few other factors will make it difficult for her to come back to Malaysia to work.

Bibik's flight was at 9.05 am from Penang, to KLIA. Then, she will board another flight to Jogjakarta at 12.00 noon. We left home at 7.00 am to try to make it on time for the flight. All of us, even my mak went to send her off. I was confident that we would made it on time, but the traffic was busy during that time, people were going to work, and there was an unusual jam on the bridge. We dicovered later that 4 cars were involved in an accident. They kissed each others butt obviously in the haste to get to the other end. We did arrive with just enough time to check in the luggages. pay for the overweight baggage and get her the boarding pass. She had to get another boarding pass to Jogjakarta in KLIA because the next flight would be Garuda Air. Just had time to salam, hugs and off she went to board the flight. We all pray that she will have a safe flight home.

Back home, we bought breakfast and some lauk. That would only mean that I would not need to cook lunch anymore. But need to do some training and re-arranging of house work. Syia, being the youngest, has always been the pampered one. Being the one who bibik took care of since her very first day, need to be trained to do simple house work. We started with how to cook rice. She measured the rice, the water and place them into the rice cooker. Then there is another pot for maktok. (Maktok eats brown rice at the advice of the doctor). Then the feeding of the cats and chicken in the reban. She even put clothes into the washing machine to be washed.

We discussed about the daily help when they started school, Ayin said, we need to have someone be at home until she gets home from school, latest she said by 3.00 pm. The rest, we will try to manage between ourselves. They know that they will have to take part in helping us around the house. We willl manage somehow.

Now, the difficult part is to leave the house unattended or when I need to bring the girls out shopping for school stuffs. Or when the girls want to go out to have some fun. Someone amongst us need to sacrifice the time.

It was difficult for bibik to say goodbye to us and like wise for us to her. I called Kak Long to let bibik talked to her on the phone and she was already tearful. Bibik wrote us a note, saying thank you and to ask for forgiveness. It was difficult for her to express that face to face.

We all are thankful to bibik, May Allah Bless her and will always protect her and give her abundance rezeki in her homeland. We do not know whether we will be meeting her again. We hope InsyaAllah we will one fine day.

22 comments:

oren said...

bukan senang nak jumpa bibik yang baik, setia dan rajin...

Anonymous said...

auntyn, nak bibik baru tak? i'm thinking of changing profession..

*nefertiti*

MA said...

Kak N : Nasib baik kan dapat Bibik yang baik. Tak apalah anak2 dara Kak N semua yang besar, dah boleh harapkan.

MM said...

Aunty N : Memang kan bibik yang baik nih satu dalam seribu nak dpt. Yang ada tuh selalu tau nak lari jer.

Satu lagi nak tanya, umah AN ada reban ayam ker?

Kak Lady said...

Beruntung betul ye kak N dapat bibik yang rajin bagus & boleh diharap....bukan senang nak dapat camtu...1 dalam 1000

nora halim said...

sedih baca cerita Kak N. saya pon tak dapat bayang laa kalau bibik saya kata nak balik. Ni pun spatutnya dia tak mau sambung lagi dia punya permit kerja tapi dia kesian tengok saya dok ngandung..kerja lagi..so dia sanggup tinggal lagi dengan saya. Tak tau laa kalau dia nak berhenti nanti. Kot saya laa kena berhenti kerja gamaknya. Berdoa agar bibik kak N slamat sampai ke kampung.

easylady said...

syok dengar orang dapat bibik yang elok.Sedih juga baca bibik AN yang baik nak balik.Bibik AN bermeeting tak dengan bibik2 yg lain atau lelaki indon tiap petang...saja nak tanya..

AuntyN said...

oren : haah, memang susah. Tapi bukan semau tak baik.

nef: hehehe, sorry permohonan tidak dapat dipertimbangkan. I surely cannot afford to pay your salary.

MA : betul tu hehehe, now the time to train the girls. Siap lah diorang tu nakkena "dera" hehehe.

mm : reban? ada.

lady : bibik memang boleh di harap. Kami anggap dia macam sedara bukan macam bibik pun.

nora : Alhamdulillah dapat bibik yg elok jugak. InsyaAllah my bibik selamat sampai ke kampung dia.

easylady : pasal meeting tiap petang tu tak ada. Kat kampung ni we all duduk rumah kampung sebuah, sebuah dan jiran keliling semua tak ada bibik dari Indon. Tapi semua jiran kenal bibik I tu.

AuntieYan. said...

Berpisah dan berjumpa adat manusia biasa, hilang di mata tapi dihati ingat juga....hemmmmmmmmm. *sedih*

lifecuppa said...

alhamdulillah sepanjang bibik dengan auntie-N dia elok aja, mudah2an Allah pun permudahkan urusan bibik dan AN jugak.

my bibik baru 10 bulan, nampak tu eloklah lagi - harapnya kekal macam tu.

I believe anak2 ni mmg elok kita train berdikari, depa jugak yang senang nanti, kan?

cL said...

dulu me & my fren ada 1 bibik. keja 1-2 bulan, cuti, keja lagi, cuti cuti lagi. yg bestnyer tiap kali mintak cuti, dia akan kata

'saya janji saya akan balik sini. kalau saya tak balik, saya kena langgar lori' atau 'kalau saya tak balik sini, saya akan kena panah petir'

masuk 3rd time dia cuti, terus tak balik2. i told my fren, 'agaknya dia dah mati kena panah petir kut'

eeeiii.....tak sudah sudah jahakk ko ni cL!!

AuntyN said...

Kak Yan : Tepat sekali tu, dah lumrah kan.........

onde2 : InsyaAllah elok lah tu kalau dah 10 bulan tu elok. Bukan ramai yang tak elok, cuma segelintir je yang buat perangai tu...

cL : Pandai menipu rupa nya tu. Baik cari bibik baru lah kalau gitu tu...

sya said...

AuntieN, teringat masa hantar bibik Turiyah balik hari tu, janjinya balik sekejap, rupanya dia memang dah plan tak nak balik langsung.. dia bawa balik everything hingga terlebih bagage sebanyak nearly 50 kilos.. at last punggah barang cam org giler kat KLIA and dpt kurangkan although kena bayar 100 lebih for xtra kilos. Nak ketawa pun ada bila tenguk dia sumbat Milo and Nescafe we bought (dia yg request) dalam hand lugage dia.

Anyway at last bila masa utk balik dia tak balik Malaysia .. Hampeh bibik ni

AuntyN said...

sya : bibik I ni memang dah cakap tak nak balik sini dah setiap kali dia balik Indonesia. Tapi 2 kali dia balik sana, dia datang balik. Rasanya lepas ni dah susah dah dia nak datang balik tu. Umur pun dah semakin banyak tu. Hari tu ada jugak pujuk duduk setahun lagi, suruh balik tahun depan saja, tapi dia dah tak nak dah.

MA said...

Kak N : tumpang lalu.

Sya , trick macam tu mmg selalu terjadi. What I did to my (former) maids yang nak balik kampung - I hold back one month salary and ckp I will pay them bila depa balik semula di sini. Kalau depa tak balik so at least dapat kurangkan the losses.

And also semua cost excess baggage tu, I suruh bayar sendiri. Depa mmg suka export Milo ke sana sbb katanya di sana mahal.

Buat baik berpada-pada - sbb I dah banyak kali kena !

bergen said...

Think of happy times, like your anniversary. It's soon, right? Next week?

easylady said...

tumpang lalu AN,
betultu kata MA,dia orangni as I see it,Live to survive..

Mereka akan ambil kesempatan selagi terboleh.That is my experiencelah..Yang rasa terkilantu adik I dan my late mum's maid kena yang baik-baik belaka.I punya semua suka meeting petang2.Tak boleh nak larang..

Agaknya sebab I and my hubby baik sangat kot..
Bilalah nak dapat yang elok.. Cuba kasi petua sikit.

AuntyN said...

MA : No problem, silakan.

Bergen : Yes, next week.

easylady : sorry sebab tak boleh nak compare pun sebab I had only one bibik selama ni pun. Yang tu lah elok yg tu lah tak elok tu. But we treat her like family lah, dia tak ambikk kesempatan. Mungkin jugak sebab tak ada ornag2 dia kat kampung ni pun. Jadi tak de lah meeting2 macam easylady cakap tu.

lifecuppa said...

oh, MA punya trick to hold back one mth salary tu could be good. Thanx for sharing MA.

nohachomel said...

auntyn,

saya takde bibik lagi, but my MIL ada. yang sekarang ni paling best, masak apa pun semua jadi walau pun tgk buku, kerja cekap, laju jek, tau-tau dah siap, tak suka berjalan, dok umah je, takleh nak dok diam. kononnya nak keje 2 tahun je, tapi bila lama2 in my family, dia rasa seronok trus nak sambung keje sampai MIL pencen, Alhamdulillah, rezeki dapat yg bole dipercayai... bebaru ni, siap offer nak jaga saya dlm pantang kalau saya bersalin...heheh...

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