December 25, 2005

The Family Law

When I signed in to YM on Friday night, the 2 makciks were almost instantaneously buzz me. It was a long day for me, and I had just finished my housework for the night after my mak had her meal. She eats late as she wanted to finish he Isyak prayers with all the sunat prayers and what not.

When Kak Teh asked me "N, what do you think of the Family Law?" I was really "blur". This is the worst case or "blurness", I am even ashamed of writing down what my answer to her here. I was totally and shamefully ignorant of the MOST important issue for us women in Malaysia. MakAndeh said observantly, "Ni sah dah tak baca paper ni?" I did admit that I had not seen the paper for the day, online or offline. I did not have the luxury of the time to even listen to the Prime Time news on TV these days. So my past time of blogging in between solat Maghrib and Insyak (in my telekung) is now something of the past.

I am not going to elaborate on the new law that had been passed in the Parliament recently. Kak Teh and MakAndeh have done that already. So please go and read their blogs, if you haven't already. They have said enough and clearly too.

Can you imagine, if someone like me, who have got all the facilities, TV, newspapers, internet, could have missed it, what would be the implication to the women who are not as priviledged as I am? Those who day in day out slog hard to share the burden of the family livelihood. Do they have to find out the hard way, about the implication of the new law when and only when they go to syariah court to fight for their rights and their children rights. Only to be told that their polygamous husband has the right to their hard earn money or properties?

If you do not want to think about yourselves, then think about the ordinary Kak Lijah, Mak Timah, Tok Semah etc, etc, How would they survive if their piece of land on which their house is build is now being divided into 2 for the husband to have a second wife. I hope we have made this clear already.

15 comments:

Kak Teh said...

auntyN - am most touched by comments in my blog - good response and we shd put the pressure up if they drag their feet.

CikNi said...

auntyN, saya pun tak baca paper tapi tahu dari blog Budak Kampung

hanya undang2 ALLAH saja yang adil

AuntyN said...

Kak teh, I have seen it already. II think what we would want is security for ourselves and our children. If it doesn't happen to us it may happen tour sisters, mothers or relatives.

CikNi : Thanks for the info. I have seen Budak Kampung entry. Interesting perspective from a man.

lifecuppa said...

ni nak kena baca gak ni..same case dgn AuntyN *blushed - malu*

bergen said...

I'm here to wish you happy new year.

AuntyN said...

onde2 : laa, ada geng rupanya ni :-)

Bergen : happy new year to you too. Where is your entry on the Sungai bakap trip? :-)

Anonymous said...

Hi AN,

From my initial reading of the newly passed Family Law, the MEN seem to assume that the they earn more than the women... kononnyer kalau bagi equal division of property, kononnyer fair to the women....

From now on, I'll be putting my savings into DD (Darling Doter's) savings account.

AMZA *wink*

AuntyN said...

AMZA : Good choice my friend.

cL said...

THEY ARE SICK!!!!

tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tot tooottt........

p/s : segala komen cL telah ditapis utk mengelakkan ketegangan urat saraf para pembaca sekalian.

nohachomel said...

aiseh auntyn, saya baru dpt tahu bila baca auntyn punya blog..*iiskk..malunya!*

ujung minggu sibuk melayan tetamu, bukan takde paper, tak sempat baca, sib baik la kengkawan kat blogs ada yg peka belaka!

AuntyN said...

cL : camna nak balas komen dah habis di csnsor tu.

noha : Alhamdulillah for the blogsphere right? So the awareness must go on.

RojakBuah said...

nak kena baca few blogs dulu psl ni, baru leh komen..hehee...

ninuk said...

i'm waiting for the Mufti's fatwa on this . also Yusof Qardawi.
till now i am speechless.
now on i'm putting all my hard earned money on my kids. at least i can still use the statement ... syurga di bawah tapak kaki Mak Nak ooooi

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