May 13, 2005

Mother's Day Spirit

Tadi masa aku makan breakfast kat kantin, PS kawan aku yang selalu travel dengan aku ke outstation tu ada cerita kat aku. PS is a single lady, her mom has dimentia and she and her sister live life to the fullest. Ni bukan cerita dia, ni cerita dia instigate another colleague to celebrate Mother's day.

Vel (an Indian man) works in the store. He is 55 this year and due for retirement in August. He is a small man with a big heart. Aku pun suka sakat dia ni. Kat sini diorang panggil dia Pakcik Vel. Aku kata aku nak panggil dia abang Vel, merah padam muka dia tu. Walaupun gelap sikit aku boleh nampak dia blushing tu, tambah2 masa aku kata tu ramai orang pulak tu.

What PS did was to ask him how he plan to celebrate the Mother's day. He answered that it was for his children to celebrate with their mother. PS then "scolded" him by saying, "How you can say like that. You are the father of your children so he should also do something special to make the mother of your children feel appreciated".

According to PS his face changed, but it get him to think. So PS actually followed up with Vel on whether he actually did or not celebrate the Mother's day. Vel related to PS that he bought his wife a cake and a stalk of flower. The wife was so happy and even her sisters were so proud of what the brother-in-law did to their sister. I joked with PS that I pity the husbands since now the ladies have got a good example to nag their husbands to be treated in similar manner. He also told PS that the following morning the wife had started to make him Vel his morning drink, again. It was quite sometime that Mrs Vel stopped making him a drink ever since he went to Australia for a vacation on his own.

It wasn't really his fault that he went to Australia alone. He has a brother living in Australia, who invited him and his mother to go to Australia for a holiday, all expenses paid. Vel had wanted to take his wife but according to him that she refused to go. Her excuses were no passport, scared of the flight and other tedious excuses. PS and I had different opinions on this. We actually told him that he should have insisted and do all the necessary, like get his wife to go and do the passport with him and buy her the ticket as well, no matter what she said. He should then presented it to her with an altamatum, if you do not want to come along, you go and return the ticket yourself. Or just insist that she went along. True to our belief, the wife memang merajuk with the vacasion. She stopped preparing his morning drink, speaking about the vacation and also the photos were taboo in the house. I stopped short of telling him "We told you so" because we think he had sufferred enough.

So, the little gesture for the mother's day did really do wonder for them after all. But I am wondering too why did she act that way when she had the chance to go to Australia? Nak mintak di pujuk ke? Orang perempuan macam tu ke? Kat mulut lain, kat hati lain pulak rasanya??
Aku rasa aku tak macam tu, sebab aku rasa kalau aku nak sesuatu aku akan terus saja cakap aku nak dan kalau tak nak tu cakap tak nak lah. Tambah2 kalau nak di offer an oversea trip with all expenses paid. Yang tu aku tak kan tolak lah.

Mai sat habaq kat aku apa you all rasa dengan cerita ni. Dari perspektif lelaki dan perempuan. Mesti ramai boleh belajar apa yang lelaki dan perempuan rasa tu.

25 comments:

shidah said...

auntyN: kita sama la.... i cakap je apa i nak....kalau tak, dia tak reti la, auntyN. Nak harap dia paham. kita mengigau , sedar balik pun dia takkan paham......mmmmm....

Anonymous said...

Remember the book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'...

Pu-Yi

winnie said...

yup.. i second Pu-Yi.

sum ladies r more outspoken, sum r not. sum assume that it's-a-girl-thing-that-every-guy shud-know. hah, lebey kurang camtuh la. biler istri kata tak nak la, so n so, minta dipujuk la tuh. ingatkan after years of living together, hubby musti dah masak ngan perangai kite kan?

tapi, tuh komunikasi tak berkesan la gitu kan? kena la habaq truih terang skali skala..kan? no one is a mind reader, except perhaps ader la special cases nyer jugak.

my 2 sen.

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atenah said...

jaman la kena cakap what you want. u only live once so u better get what u want/need, no matter whether ur a man or a woman.

stillconfuse said...

mmm, awat bini dia merajok teruk sangat. yang i hairan tu, dia buat jual mahal tanak pegi pastu merajuk...ish, tak paham gak pompuan cam gini ek. tak boleh salah lelaki kot pasal memang dah sejak azali diorang ni hati "kayu"...so kitalah yang kena main peranan kalau nak dapat apa yang kita nak. for the husband's part, diorang ni pun kena belajar jugak, tapi biasalah...jgn harapla nak tgk diorang baca artikel pasal benda2 gini kan. They are our husband. kalau diorang boleh terima kekurangan kita, kita pun terimalah kekurangan mereka dgn baik dan kalau kita yang sedar dulu, buatlah apa yang patut. tak rugi apa pun. as for me, i lebih suka diam dan pujuk diri sendiri atau luahkan dlm blog, tapi i tak suka tunjuk perasaan pada suami. tapi klu sekali2 i luahkan semua sampai nangis2, dia memang nampak berubah. diorang memang pelik. tapi agaknya diorang pun ingat kita ni pelik kan. betul tak pendapat saya?

hana_kirana said...

Ramai pompuan segan nak cakap apa yang dia nak.

Anonymous said...

once I kept mump (with what I want) and it get me nowhere..now I become more vocal with what i want, but sometimes after telling several times and he still forgotten, I'm lost!

Arena said...

Perempuan selalu ingat thatb their spouse ni mind reader. Konon2 dah kenal atau kawin lama sure dah tahu kehendak hati kita. But it rarely wirks that way. Dah cakap pun adang2 buat tak reti jek.Kakkaka.. So kene terus-terang. Merajuk tu biasela.. tapi yg penting, get the points across first.. Kang merajuk sorang2 kakaka.

ibuVouge said...

some man can read his wife mind, some can't
tapi kalau hubby saya tak ckp, mmg mimpi lah nak dapat.

Orgkampung said...

hmmm auntyn..memang ada yang susah nak bagitau hubby so cakap kias-kias..even pada zaman sekarang nih..tapi as for me..cakap je terang-terang..memang betul cakap semua...laki memang takkan nak paham la kalau tak cakap...betulkannnn..neway..bagusnya uncle vel tu...ye lah kan...tenguk la pulak sapa juru nasihat tu kan...hehehe

penulis amatur said...

tu namanya mengada2....i jenis berterus terang..apa yg i nak apa yg i fikir i cakap..sometimes menyakitkan but accept the fact...(zalim ke i ni??)

onelife said...

Previously tak pandai nak luahkan persaan, sekarang dah a bit vocal about what I need, but then kengkadang che abang macam lupa atau tak paham jugak, how's that?

Puteri said...

mrs vell is weird...kekeke..

CikNi said...

may be ada cerita yang tersirat

Kak Teh said...

auntyN: memanglah...ish, tak payah lah beli- rugi duit! bila tak beli...nak merajuk tang mana?

narfnarf said...

auntyN, maybe...his wife just nak tgk kalo her husband really wants her to go or not, with or without her. Bukannya pasal dia nak gi or not (although she wanted to lah), but the real issue was just whether her husband truly wants her along or not, whether he would go on without her, or whether he would stay just because she doesn't wanna go. Yelah, to make her feel comforted, wanted, needed and loved? Insecure at the thought of her husband going somewhere without her? My two cents worth.

Pnut said...

Ermm hubby saya pun tipikal tak celebrate apa-apa pun even besday...tp skrng saya dah ajar dia...so far so good...

SC said...

MM also thinks mother's day is a whole load of nonsense.tapi gumbira pulak bila kita make a fuss over mother's day for his mom.*rolling my eyes up to heaven* he did not give me anything on the mom's day weekend,not even a wish, but we have a double celebration on AM's birthday.To him the day I became a mom is mother's day.ok lah i pun terima...

about rajuk merajuk ni, my pe'el memang le suka merajuk, tunggu 15 minit kot2 MM reti tak nak pujuk ke apa...kalau dia buat donno kat muncung satu hasta i ni, i selamba je mintak peluk, tak nak pujuk ke bang?kita merajuk ni, karang awak lapar kang dapur tak berasap...hehehe.Frankly, I agree memang merajuk tu buang masa tapi merajuk manja takpe pe...kalau caranya betul, insyaAllah side effectsnya best.

bab mrs vel ni, nampak sangatlah merajuk sampai melepas chance nak gi melancong. lelaki2 yg i kenal, kalau ada sikit chance nak save duit, mereka terima je, no fuss,takde nak pujuk2 tergolek golek. kecuali la memang nak berendut dgn isteri..tak boleh tidak, dia akan pujuk by hook or by crook.

macam macam.tapi hati perempuan ni memang senang nak dibeli kalau ada yang menjual.yang ada lah...

atiza said...

rugi besar tolak orang nak bayar pegi jalan obersea...huh! patut offer kat auntyn ker, ps ker ek?

AuntyN said...

Sorry lah aku ta jawab semua komen ni. Bukan pasal apa sebab, pada aku kalau tak direct memang rugi. Nak harap diorang baca hati kita memang sampai bila2 pun tak menjadi. Walaupun depa baca kalau kita cakap yang sebaliknya dia akan ikut apa yang di dengar, yang tersurat bukat tersirat tu kan. Jadi jangan dok malu nak cakap apa yang kita hendak tu, walaupun perkara yang intimate tu. Tak rugi sesangat kan?

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