May 05, 2005

Office Romance

I totally blame Atenah for inspiring me to write this. Actually my story has no mushy sound effect like hers. Not as juicy actually, it is more of a whining actually. Dah lama simpan, tak nak cerita pun susah, nak cerita pun susah. Susah tu bukan pasal apa aku takut ada yang kenal aku baca ni dan kenal pulak tuan punya badan tu.

Anyway, aku nak cerita sebab aku tak suka, kita hint2 pun masih jugak menjadi, bila cakap terang2 dia deny pulak tu. Jadi macam mana nak buat, cerita kat you all lah kan.

There is this male colleague in my office. By rank we are of the same rank, by years of service he is more senior than me. He is not our of our skin and culture but a local absolutely. (Dah tak tau nak berlapik macam mana lagi dah ni). He is married with kids, and there is this lady who happened to be his subordinate who we always see in his office, during office hours. I have got an open door policy. If you walk pass my door you can see me directly and my blinds are always opened. There is almost no occasion when I am in my office that I will close the door. Unlike my friend here, his office is totally closed, if mine is semi glassed his is totally covered. With doors closed we have no idea who is in there and what they would be doing. So a time what happened behind those closed door is left to our imaginations.

For those who wants to see him, oftentime make a call to him first to ensure his is in. I would say perhaps they do not want to embarrassed themselves to catch them off gaurd. I often just knock and go in, why do I care what they would be doing, they are in office and should not be doing something un ethical right? So far so good, the scenery seems to be quite innocent, just like any normal discussion between boss and subordinate. But knowing her line of work, there should not be any reason for her to be in the boss' office more than 5 mins at one time.

What irks me most is that she is also married with kids of her own. She is one of our kind and hijabed too. I have also heard that the boss practised double standard where she is concern. Her payslip is prepared by the boss himself, her medical claim was easily approved while others were questions. If you think this is a gossip, I can tell you it was from a very reliable source. For me who always fight for equality, find this very annoying. Usually, when there is a new policy or management decision, I won't tell my staff until there is an announcement made by the HR. But many time I was suprised when one of my staff questioned me about the news. Obviously news had spread to the groundroot. Who would be the strong suspect? Take a guess.

For me I blamed both of them. Kata pepatah Melayu, kalau bertepuk sebelah tangan tak kan berbunyi. Oh yes, she has every priviledge excuse to responds to the boss, while blaming the boss is the one who keep calling her to go to his room. On the other hand, the boss himself should be blamed for being "itchi". Taking advantage of the whole situation.

Nauzubillah. I really don't know what to say here. I am embarrassed because she is our kind and people has this idea that we are easy to get, despite of what we say. Second because she is a female and I have my values that I am proud of and at this point being tarnished by someone like her. Third, both are married, where is your loyalty to your spouse?

13 comments:

CikNi said...

sesetengah orang tu memang very good at taking advantage

shidah said...

auntyN:orang macam ni memang bingai. sometimes they know that people r watching, but they just don't care. tak dapat tegur ngan mulut pun, ngan hati cukupla.... sabau yea auntyN

ayu said...

salams... hari ni baru first time dapat baca blog nih.dok baca selalu nama ni kat blog Ina(delinn) baru mlm ni berkesempatan.. hmm hubby kite serupa eks.. suka basuh pinggan sendrik dan suka diulik di muka.. hehehe..apa pun... saya masih baru di alam ini.. masih byk yang perlu dilalui untuk mematangkan hubungan kami.Bila baca blong auntyN ni kot2 leh membantu.. sonok baca blog auntyN..no wonder Ina jadi pembaca setia hehehe

atenah said...

woooi, now i understand how po felt when one's name is quoted in a blog entry. if i were you, i would take the lady for a private talk, after all you are her superior & tak kisah le abt what ppl say re: moral policing but their antics have negative impact on the office climate.

atiza said...

..kat Bank nih lagi dahsyat..siap kena tangkap jaga tengah romen dalam keta at the parking lot..

i would imagine macam dalam citer Titanic gitu ;)

atiza said...

..oh..forgot..it was a division head making out with his high flying subordinate..

hannah said...

Auntyn, macam pernah dengar je cerita versi ni, dulu my mom balik kerja je, cerita kat my dad pasal colleague beranak empat ada affair dengan colleague beranak tiga.. this is not the first time I heard stories like these... office romance memang banyak berlaku especially involve laki pompuan yang dah kahwin...hmm...I wonder why. Diorang ni dah boring ke tengok spouse masing-masing?

Anonymous said...

Aunty N
Saya ni pembaca setia blog AuntyN tapi tak pernah nak comment, tapi hati ni terpanggil nak buat komen since office romance ni menjadi2 sekrg kenapa ye terutama yg dah kahwin? Tak takut dgn Yang Maha Esa ke?Jika tengah beromen Allah ambik nyawa...Nauzubillah...

Napaloh

AuntyN said...

CikNi : Take advantage satu hal yang dok layan satu hal pulak. Tu yang bengang ni

shidah : Dok sabaq dah lama ni.

Atenah : Ni antara boss dgn subordinate, She is not my subordinate. HR dah teguq direct dah tapi kata tak dak apa2.

Ayu : Thanks for coming by.

Atiz : Tak lah jadi macam tu lagi, mintak simpang lah, kalau jadi kami mesti tak duduk diam ni. Tak mau subahat ni.

Hannah : Tu yang tak faham ni macam tak cukup kat rumah je tu.

Napaloh : Terimakasih sebab baca dan komen, Nauzubilah, ye lah kalau dah berdua2 tu yg ketiga tu sapa lagi kan...

Puteri said...

boss tu itchy? tang mana? kurap kot...hehehe...

DeLinn said...

ohhhhh.. Ayu tu.. ha memang kawan DeLinn.. :)

Utter Rubbish said...

Maybe her husband is like her too...

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