The Wedding Plan

Thank you to all you who did come by, during the week-end. Still a bit too tired from the journey home to update this blog. We reached home at about 1.30 am last night. I come to work today and for sure today I am indeed going to need lots and lots of Nescafe doses.

Last thursday morning, my eldest brother (Abang Long) dropped by early in the morning and told my hubby that he would be dropping by, with my other siblings, who are residing within the area, at my house to discuss the wedding plan for Shah.

To those who doesn't remember Shah, he is my younger brother, 2nd last in the family. Had problem with his first marriage and a divorcee with 2 kids. We found him a suitor a few months back, a lady with a daughter, also a divorcee. They became engaged 2 months ago and we are now planning for their wedding. Sound grand, not really since this is the second time for each of them.

Abang Long, his wife, my sis S and Shah came just before maghrib. They said they had their dinner prior to coming to my house. A good thought on their part for not wanting to trouble me to cook something for them, I guessed. After maghrib we all sat down to discuss the wedding.

Abang Long looked at the calender and since it was going to be a school holiday soon, there would be lots of wedding during the week-end. To do it on week days would be too troublesome as almost all of us would be working. Only SIL would be free as she is teacher. In the end we picked 3rd September 2005. Shah said as long as it was not 2 September it would be fine. 2 September was his first wedding date, the marriage which had failed.

In the end these what have been decided.

Date : 3 Sept - Akad nikah and kenduri.
Venue : My house
Occasion : 3 in one - Kenduri Arwah ayah (dah setahun menurut tahwim hijrah Bulan Rejab and Sept 2004), Kenduri Shah, house warming for me.

I hope this time Shah will find happiness. He desserved it after many years of heart break. Maybe some will say that when a man divorces his wife he could find a substitute very fast. In Shah's case it was more of a necessity than the sexual thing. Right now his children are with his ex-wife, who in my opinion is not fit to be a mother. I am not going to elaborate but children are AMANAH from Allah, we have the duty to execute that amanah with love and responsibility. We, the brothers and sisters and Shah himself just cannot sit still looking at the children's future being spoilt (to put it in mild term).

It is going to be a busy month for me to prepare my house for the kenduri. It is not going to be a big, grand affair more of a doa selamat only, between family and neighbours, if you happen to be my neighbour you are welcome to the kenduri.