Enough Is Enough

Thank you all for the encouraging comments and dua's for my sister. She spent the night at our house last night. Hubby and I had been offering her the shelter for so long. We told her to take the decision for such a long time. She keep on hoping that he will change. But we know he will NEVER change. If he wanted to he would have "grown-up" and try to patch up. After he met with my hubby the last time, he was also called by the pejabat ugama. In front of these people he ACTED as if he is the good guy. He kept on saying that my sis is NOT listening to his words, like Derhaka to him.

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Let me continue here.

My sis did what was necessary. She said that she went to the hospital with her 3rd son W. This is the son who had caused all the "commotion". After that she went to the police station to make the report. She is lucky there is no bruises on her cheek. She was slapped twice. Then after that she went home and pack her things. She arrived at my eldest brother's home about 5.00 am. She asked W to follow her, because she was concerned with his wellbeing. Scared that the father would hit him after that. But W is a big size boy, bigger than the father himself. He couldn't protect his mom because they were seperated by the grilled door which was locked. My sister was slapped when she attempted to open the door to let W entered the house. Verbal abuse was exchanged between father and son, although the son didn't use any bad words. W said to his father he would report his father to the police if the father hit him.

Yesterday, my sis went to the pejabat ugama to file the case. She did once before and they were called for counselling (to be expected). No incident happened after that only verbal abuse or sms, so she stayed on. The ustazah at the pejabat ugama said they can already build a case against him, but will call him in first.

The police also called him to the police station. He was told that my sis made a report against him and that she would be staying at our brother's house for a while. He told those officers (who happened to be Non-Muslims) that in Islam it is OK to hit one's wife as a "pengajaran". #@&*#@& to him !!!! (excuse me for this). My hubby said in that case then how do we attract Non-Muslim to Islam if wives in Islam can be "hit" as you like. I don't know from which kitab he took those words from!!!!. He told them that he will accept her back with a condition that she listen to his every word. My sis said he is a good actor and he was acting in front of them. My sis told them that she had done what she possibly could, but he just stay the way he is.

We have been telling my sis that he will never change. Now that she is out, she should stay out. She should think of her personal happiness now more than the children. They are big enough to decide who is right and who is wrong. If she stayed on the case will go on until one of them dies or W dies.

I am proud of her for taking the decision to get out, but I don't know whether she will stay out. Told her last night that she has to be strong to make a drastic decision. His family will not back her up, but we will.

I know this entry is full of anger. It does look like I am exposing the dirty linen in my family. What good would it do me if the emotion is bottled up inside me? Some may not agree with me for revealing this in this blog, but to quote cyberdad, for one case exposed there are many more hidden. Just take this as a lesson learnt. Do not judge us for doing or not doing enough to help my sis.

I appreciate your concern and thank you all from the bottom of my heart.