Bila aku cerita pasal internet connection kat rumah tu rosak, dia macam berjangkit pulak kat ofis ni. Elok-elok aku dok baca komen kat blog, dok reply komen, tau-tau dah down pulak. Hampir setengah hari aku melengung dok try nak connect to internet tak boleh jugak. Dah lah kat rumah tak boleh kat ofis pun down jugak....
Harap-harap lepas ni semua OK lah.
Enough of that...
Yes, Kak Long is at home. She came back fetched by her father early Sunday morning first week of Ramadhan, just before sahur time. Selim melim anak dara aku ni. She was quite plump when we sent her to college, but now due to the pressure of study, she loose some weight. We teased her often that after 5 weeks of holiday she will be back to her previous weight. She said she will have to go back to college to stay slim.
Syia, my youngest daughter misses her Kak Long a lot while Kak Long is in college. Often Syia would come into my room and asked whether Kak Long was online, she wanted to chat with her on the YM. Eversince Kak Long arrived Syia has been quite inseperable with her. They bathe together, she would be sleeping on her lap in between the terawih prayers etc. In fact all the four of them would be in the same room doing something together since her arrival. I am so happy to see all of them are close buddies and not just sisters. Even Angah who has been rather distance from the other siblings seems to get on pretty well with Kak Long. Angah is more outgoing than the other sisters, she has her friends who she hang out with lots more time than her own sisters. But after Kak Long entered college Angah seems to want to get closer to her elder sister now.
One of my YM buddies (one the makciks) asked be recently whether Kak Long has a boyfriend. I said not that I know of. She asked again how would I react if she finds a boyfriend right now. I said I actually has no idea, but hubby and I have been telling Kak Long to tell us if she has a boyfriend. I would think that I would readily accept it if the friendship would not jeopardise her studies. I myself used to have a boyfriend already at her age, except that the relationship didn't end up in marriage.
As for Kak Long, I don't expect her not to have a boyfriend, I think sooner or later she will find some who she likes more than others, who likes her more than other girls. I can't stop that, can I? The question is, is she too young to be having a serious relationship? Is she mature enough to handle affection and perhaps love? Is she able to handle heartbreak if it happened? So far this daughter of mine seems so "selamba" in her actions.
I don't know the answer right now. I am not at all that particular how the boy or man would be. Magistrate, lawyer or what ever, at this point is not important. Handsome or not is also not important, tapi kenalah ada rupa sikit kan? Kata orang sedap mata memandang, ye tak? Anyway beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Race or creed pun tak important. Kalau dulu mak aku takut aku further studied kat overseas, takut aku bawak balik matsaleh husband, for me it is OK if she wants to marry outside our race. As long as the man is a practicing Muslim.
At this moment kalau ada sesiapa yang nak tackle Kak Long tu aku nak jugak lah risek-risek sikit. Ni pun kalau yang dah nampak macam serius lah kan. Bukan apa, cuma nak kenal mak bapak, nak jadikan besan dan menantu sebagai kawan dan saudara. Nak make sure he is serious about my daughter, not just playing around. We surely don't want what happened to my sis to happen to any of my girls. Nauzubillah...
Whoever is her choice, we as parents wants the best for her, wants her to find happiness. I do hope that it does not happen TOO soon, I am just enjoying my daughter to be loosing her to someone else. When that happens I hope I will be gaining a son and not loosing a daughter. She still many years ahead of her life, she still need lots of training in the kitchen, and she still need to live and enjoy LIFE before she is saddled to marriage and parenthood. I hope she has that chance.
I know so many of you have children who are about the same age as Kak Long. So, is 18 the right age for a girl to be dating? Or should we allow our children to date at this young age? What is the right age to start dating anyway? Do I sound like I am too open (considering I am staying in a kampung hehehe) Come tell me about it.
For those who are still unmarried, maybe you can share your experience, at what age did you start dating. It would surely be interesting to know.......hehehe