October 10, 2005

The Last Straw

In the news there was the story of the nurse who died after being beaten by her ex-husband. She never regain consciousness. The young children were made ophaned by their own father. They lost their mother at the hand of their father, brutally. And later when proven guilty, he may face the death sentence. So in the end they lost both parents.

The man who God has entrusted to be their protector, has betrayed that trust and I hope they will not grow up traumatised by the memory of the incident. I hope that they will be cared for and loved by their relatives as to erase the tragic memory.

This morning at sahur, my sister called. At that point she was packing her things. She said she was moving out of the house. Her husband had slapped her in the face and kicked her. She had made a police report and a check-up. She finally decided to get out of the house. The cause was as usual because she was going to open the door for the third son. He had padlocked the house to prevent the son he does not like to enter when the son came home at 12.30 am. According to my sister the son went to terawih near his gandparents house. The father just would not give the benefit of the doubt to the son. My BIL slapped and kicked my sister right in front of the son.

I hope this is the beginning of the end of my sister's suffering. She said she will be going to the Pejabat Ugama today to report again. I really hope that she will be free of him ASAP. What I could not understand is, this is the month of Ramadhan, a holy month where the syaitans are tied to hells' gates. What is in his mind and soul to act in an unhumane manner. Nafsu? Vengence? for what? Obviously his iman is only skin deep. Not felt in his heart and soul.

I thank Allah a zillion times for giving me a jodoh as good as my hubby. He is not perfect but at least he love me in return for my love for him.

32 comments:

Mas said...

Kisah tu memagn sedih.My aunty kenal dengan ex-hubby arwah nurse tu. Dia memang kaki dadah dan adik2 beradik dia pun ada yang jaul ganja. Muka hensem pun tak guna kalu perangai buruk.
Hope, my hubby tak macam tu.Insyaallah

PB said...

Sedih dgr cerita ttg sister aunty N. Moga dia akn terus tabah menghadapi hari yg mendatang.
PB doakan dia kan menemui hari bahagianya suatu hari nanti.

atiza said...

I really hope that your sis could find peace again, now that she'll be moving out of the "hell" hole..dah tua2 nih kita nak beribadat..bukan nak berteriak2 gaduh, kan?

AuntyN said...

Mas, pb dan atiz :Thanks

Alfatihah jugak untuk arwah tu..

born-again drama queen said...

my du'a for your sister..tell her to be strong, and to seek mercy from Allah..

Anonymous said...

Doa for your sister. Hopefully she will find the true happiness that she is seeking for.

EM

AuntyN said...

Nef and EM : Thanks.

Arena said...

Prayers for your sister. May Allah give her the strength to overcome this turbulance. Makes us syukur on what we have kan..

Mama Irma said...

Auntyn, dulu my sister pun berantakan (gara2 tengok cerita Indon), dgn hubby dia sampai masuk hospital dan ceraiberai! I masuk campur nasihatkan , lepas tu bila diorang baik semula, dia dah sayang laki dia semula, kata I pulak yang jahat! I tak berani masuk campur urusan rumahtangga diorang lagi!

Kak Lady said...

AuntyN..sedih dgr kisah sedih adik tu...alhamdulillah..hubby kak lady ni kdg panas baran jugak tapi tak pernah memukul...dan menyayangi kami sekeluarga sepenuh hati & kak lady rasa adik tu ambil keputusan yang betul..sebelum yang lebih buruk terjadi..kerana kita berkahwin bukan untuk disakiti...

oren said...

Quoting what kak Lady has said..tapi susah nak carik lelaki yang bertanggungjawab la nih..semua main lepas tangan..yg lebih teruk, lepas kaki kat pompuan..hampeh sungguh..

sedih nengok muka anak sulung arwah nurse tu..umur masih muda, dah jadi anak yatim..angkara bapaknya plak tu..

RojakBuah said...

semoga Allah kuatkan hati Sis AN...di bulan mulia ni sama2 kita doa agar kita semua diberkati, dirahmati oleh Allah...

Jiwa Rasa said...

These monsters should be put into the zoo, so that they can practice their martial arts with the monkeys...

bikin malu org laki je...

*&(^%#@$!!

Kak Teh said...

this is really sad and I hope your sister finds a solution. Reading this entry, I thought about the irony of life...I wrote in my blog today, abt a loving malay couple who iused to live down the road from me...they were so loving, and in their middle age - they were blessed with a new baby - then months after that she discovered she had cancer - last week she died. Banyak dugaan Tuhan dalam berbagai cara.

Queen Of The House said...

Auntyn, I hope your sis will have the stregth to help her through her decision. Sometimes you just need to get out of the marriage to find your happiness. It's so sad.

budak said...

AN
I hope nothing but the best for your sis. Thou must strong...to help the weak.

Cheers

AuntyN said...

Thanks to all of you. To me,although it is sad, but I think this morning incident had just opened my sister's mind to face reality. To stop hoping that things will be back to normal between them and moved out.

Alex Lacey said...

*sigh*...

cyberdad said...

for every one case reported in the news, there are ?? many more hidden.

Tip of the iceberg, huh?

Semoga tabah hadapi ujian ni.

AuntyN said...

alex : *sigh* back

cyberdad : you are right!!. Thanks anyway.

AdieJin said...

at least ur sis made a decision.Good or bad is not the issue, but she is taking action and hope she stands by it. All of us here can only pray for her better future..

Audra said...

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. And good for her too. I hope that she will have a better life after this.

But my personal opinion, lodging a complaint/report at pejabat agama is not sufficient. Your sister needs to lodge a police report too but prior to that, get medical report from a certified doctor about her condition - bruises, cuts, injuries etc due to being hit by her husband as evidence.

Sorry if I sound a bit prejudiced but pejabat agama always take the man's side and they will normally ask the couple to go for counselling etc.. unless if the case is brought forward to the syariah court and again - hearing, mentioning, see if a trial fits the picture etc - it will take a long time.. Well, maybe I missed your previous entries about your sister but this is based on what I have observed around me - friends, relatives who are/were in similar situations like your sister's.

Ramadhan tidak merantai nafsu manusia, just syaitan dan iblis yang dirantai. Nafsu manusia dirantai mengikut kehendak manusia itu sendiri. Kalau tak dirantai dan dibiarkan menguasai diri, we can be more evil than the Devil or more animal than the animal itself.

CikNi said...

doakan yang terbaik untuk keluarga auntyN, semoga Allah beri 'ilham' pada your sis dalam menangani kemelut hidup nya

Ely said...

i cried when i read this posting. having gone thru a divorce years back kinda relived the pain and hurt i went thru, together with the kids. the thot of a husband kicking and hitting the wife in front of the kids, hmmm...

my doas to your sister. insyaAllah, she will be a stronger woman. she does not deserve to be treated like this...neither does her son!

atn said...

doa agar hidupnya lebih tenang dan bahagia

anggerik merah said...

yes indeed very sad story about the death of nurse. Semhuga rohnya dicucuri rahmat.

AuntyN, my pray to your sister's future happinest now that she has made decision to get out from this horrible ordeal.

ayu said...

AuntyN,
so sorry to hear bout ur sis. may Allah bless her and her family. glad that finally she made a move. sebab dulu pun AN ade cerita and I wonder what happen to both of them (after the husband met Uncle Z).

Al fatihah untuk arwah nurse tu. sedey tgk anak sulung perempuannya.harap2 mereka semua diberi kasih syg secukupnya by their relatives..aminnnnn

nohachomel said...

auntyn, semoga bulan ramadhan yg mulia ni, membawa kebahagiaan dan kerukunan dalam keluarga.

btw, tq for dropping by ang teach me how to link-mengelink...thanks again..muahs..muahss..;)

MA said...

The little girl could have been my daughter. I could have been the deceased.

Like Ely, it hurts to read such stories. Some of us survived, some - like the deceased, did not.

I am glad that your sister finally found the courage to walk away. Maybe you could introduce her to blogs - so that she will know that there are many like her, who made such decisions - and lived happily and contented.

uDA said...

ya Allah..jauhkan la perkara2 yang tak baik pada keluarga kami.

may ur sis be stronger

cm said...

sedih bila di zaman serba maju dan canggih, ada suami yang boleh pukul isteri...cm simpati dgn adik k.N semoga dia akan beroleh bahagia selepas ini juga buat anaknya itu semoga mengambil iktibar dan bakal menjadi suami yg baik kelak.

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