March 25, 2005

My Pregnancies (A flashback)

When we first got married 19+ years ago, my hubby was working in KL. We discussed whether I should be moving to KL or he wanted to get a transfer to Penang. So in the end we decided for him to come back to Penang, since his family is here. His father had already passed away and his mother was staying with his younger brother.

We discussed about having a baby but he said that he was not ready to be a father. I did say that I was not that young anymore and would like to have a baby before I was 30. Those days technology was not as advance like now, I had been hearing about the risk of a late pregnancies (like after the mother's age is 30 years old). We did wait for almost 2 years before we had our first baby. My mother in law was a bit worried to see me not yet pregnant while my hubby's cousin had who had married later had already been blessed with a child. She was jokingly said that my hubby was "stupid" "hang tu bodoh", she joked with my hubby.

When I was pregnant for the first time my hubby was transferred to Ipoh from KL. So I had to go through the whole term on my own. I remember being sad when one day as I was shopping for baby's clothes, the shop assisstant asked why I was shopping alone and not with my hubby. I told her that he was not around.
My pregnancies had been easy so to speak. I had almost no morning sickness or any cravings for anything. No cravings for weird stuff like some people. I work the whole full term of my pregnancies until the last day before deliveries. So much so a colleague at work joked,

Richard : N, hang ni beranak macam pi berak je lah
Me : Ya lah tu, berak sembelit!!!


I was not a veggie person before I got pregnant. Like most teenages and young ladies, I did not like veggie at all. I would not even eat onions, will pick them out of any food or simply did not eat them. But when I was pregnant I stuffed myself with veggies of different kind and tofu was like a must have every week. The tofu (as in tau foo fah) was supposedly good for giving fair skin to the baby. (This was my hubby's "prescription"). I didn't really believe that tofu will have the effect of making the one skin tone fairer. I argued with hubby that if he believed that would be so, then an a****can with very dark skin will be fair if the mom drinks tofu during pregnancies. But I like tofu so I eat them a lot too. I don't think that my daughters' fair skins were contributed by the tofu alone though. But the vegies proved to be good as I have healthy children until now. I am counting my blessings, Syukur Alhamdulillah for since their birth I had little problems with them. That makes it easier for me to build up my career.


So, my four daughters were born naturally in 1987, 1989, 1992 and 1994. They are beautiful girls (at least to me they are). Walau pun pipi tak bak pauh di layang, hidung tak bagai seludang, they are still my beautiful daughters. You may ask whether I have regrets for not having any son, my answer would be, ini kurnian Allah, I did try to have another baby (even see a doctor for tips on getting the gender of the baby, but Allah knows best) I have no regrets whatsoever.

My daughters are growing up, they are teenages now, I have got to be in the same wavelength with them. To me communication is very important. I want my daughters to be able to talk to me on anything, I do not want them to feel that there is a generation gap between us. Alhamdulillah, so far I have been able to do that. I have also seen that they have respects for the elders since my mother is now living with us and how they treat her and their paternal grandmother with love and respect.

I do know that oneday some men will take them away from me but, still they will be my daughters. I pray though that whoever those men would be that they would love them just as much as I do them.

24 comments:

Batrisya88 said...

*hehehhe ada borang nak kena isi ker nih aunty???*

My eldest sister pun ada 4 org anak dara.. i rasa kita patut bersyukur sbab mungkin ada org yg x dpt anak langsung..dan x semestinya kita ada anak perempuan nanti diornag x bole jaga kita...dan belum tentu kalau ada anak lelaki karang dier akan take care biler kiter tua kan..

InsyaAllah..nanti biler menyambut menantu karang adala anak lelaki..
x gitewww

AuntyN said...

Bat : Nak borang nak bagi kat sapa tu, anak teruna Bat tu kan kecik lagi. Ye lah, yang tu dok kena doa selalu tu

Anonymous said...

My Kak Long will be be 47 this year (blessed with 3 daughters ranging from 8-23 y.o),My kak Ngah, has 4 daughters as well AuntyN, she's soon 44 years old, and the daughters are ranging from 12-21 years old (soon to be in 2005).

It's definitely with Allah's will that u'd been created with all daughters. Hopefully you will have grandson, right after one of yr. daughters got married and have kids of her own.

As a 'kampung' boy my parent weren't highly educated enough to treat me the way you treat your children.

Waktu belajar mengaji dengan arwah bapa dalam umur 5-7 tahun, memang saya selalu menangis kena tempik sebab dia garang. Adik-beradik yang ramai tidak membolehkan kami hidup senang...

Now its all just memory, I think all of us are wise enough to be independence, and most of my bro and sisters are married now with children.

I think way they treat their children far better than how we were treated when we were children (just due to life circumstances and the hardship).

And I still can remember that my Kak Ngah treated their children just way you treat your daughters .

The outcome is pretty positive, all of the daughters are just her friends, ....

Tapi Pak Tam dia ni akan tegur juga dia orang dulu, kalau kadang-kadang ada antara mereka ni yg. langgar atau tak reti bahasa walaupun depan emak bapak diorang ke...

So I've been there... :).

May God Bless Aunty N with all the princess!!...

AuntyN said...

Om : Thanks for the long komen. U must really be in the mood hah? Sekarang dah modern dah, tak leh nak buat tak tentu dah. Diorang pun pandai jugak dah, nanti siap kena "blackmail" nak panggil teledera. Disiplin tetap kena jugak.

Kak Teh said...

auntyN, your post today has a special meaning for me. thanks.
and yes, i do know abt comments re: awat tak dak lagi niiiiiih? and bila dah start ada satu, bila nak ada dua? elok ada sepasang. Bila dah ada sampai empat...laaaa bila nak berenti niiiiiih?

Batrisya88 said...

hahhah Kak Teh.. sekarang i tgh mengalaminya... huhu..

lady_bugs said...

Aunty N..
exactly like auntNlaa.. im e 2nd of 4 girls in e family...
my eldest sis dh kawin n dh ada 2 anak n dua2 anak tu ialah BOYS.. hehehe... ramai org kata.. my parents will have grandson demi grandson... hehehe....
all girls or all boys.. atau campur2... semua tu kurniaan Ilahi kan...
tapi all girls ni part yg seronok is bila bawa mama shopping or duduk gossiping sama2... mcm dah tak dak ari esok kalau bercerita....

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miz_ct said...

AN, u're one cool mom :D .. just like my mom gak.. ramai kawan miz yg nak tukar mak dgn mak miz.. hehe .. boy!.. i sure miss her.. takpe.. esok my parents will b in KL .. yippee!
btw, just wondering.. takde sibling rivalry??

AuntyN said...

Kak Teh : nasib baik dapat jugak, anyway ni nostalgia masa dulu2. Dok remind myself nanti tak mau jadi kepoh bila anak2 dah kawin. I heard today is yout b'day is that so? If yes, Happy B'day Kak Teh.

Lady_bug : aunty delete satu komen pasal terkeluar 2 kali tu. Terimakasih atas kunjungan ke blog aunty, mmg camtu, pi shopping semua ikut penuh kereta. Dlm kereta bising bagai nak rak cite itu ini.

Miz_ct : Hargailah ibubapa semasa mereka bersama kita.

mon said...

auntie,

nak kena bawa sijil apa? apa requirement.. bila due date.. saya nak mohon nih! hohohoho

DeLinn said...

this entry is so sweet.. makes me miss my mother even more..

:(

CikNi said...

1994 tu, cikni belum jumpa cikG lagi pun... uh uh uh...

anak cik 2 orang - boy & girl. full stop. tutup kedai.

AuntyN said...

Mon : Sijil? Takkan macam nak mintak keje kut? Nak mohon ni kena risik merisik dulu then kena pandai ambik hati mak mentua tau? Hahaha Terimakasih lah kerana berkunjung ke blog aunty ni.

Delinn : baguslah tu, ingat selalu kat Mak tu, dia mesti selalu ingat kat Delinn tu

Cikni : Berapa pun tak pe asalkan sihat. Ni mesti muda lagi ni.

atenah said...

nanti i can meet thme too hm? how are you gonna introduce me? this is the crazy lady on the internet :) ?

AuntyN said...

Tenah : introduce you? Is it Kak Tenah or Makcik Tenah?

Pnut said...

Kak....saya minum byk soya during pregnantkan Najmi, dan makan tau fo fah almost everyday...

saya tak lalu minum susu, so just soya jer, anak mmg putih melepak, tapi kulti very the koman la...panas sikit ruam, mandi kongsi-kongsi sabun pun bintil-bintil...very the leceh maaa....

atiza said...

soybean is supposed to make your skin (and babies) soft but as what pnut said, tak tahan. All my kids have soft skin but kalau kena gigit nyamuk, bintat dia besar sesangat.

AuntyN said...

Pnut & Atiz : Ye ka? Anak2 dara tu OK je kulit depa masa kecik kalau kena nyamuk pun tak lah sampai besar2 bintatnya, or ruam selalu. Agaknya pasai makan sayur banyak jugak kut. I didn't take the doctor's suppliment cuma calcium pills saja. Ynag lain tu ada vitamin suppliment sikit2. Tu je lah.

Ewok said...

Aunty, you are blessed with daughters. My aci pulak got all boys. rezeki Tuhan bagi, kan.

AuntyN said...

Ewok : Alhamdulillah, I'm truly blessed

shidah said...

auntyN:anak2 i macam bendera pahang. ada cerah ada gelap, sebab ada time pregnant, siang malm minum kopi & a big NO to soyabean... Tapi yang gelap sekali tu le orang kata paling manis.... alis dia mcm di lukis.... :)

AuntyN said...

SHidah : Gelap ka cerah ka anak kita jugak. Warna kulit tu bukan pengukur peribadi dan keimanan kan?

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